Couples Therapy

You were once in a happy, fulfilling relationship. You and your partner were madly in love with one another, but somewhere along the way, one or both of you got lost. Now, your relationship is almost unrecognizable. You’re walking on eggshells because it seems like everything turns into an argument these days, and you just don’t have the energy anymore. You and your partner still love each other, but it feels like you’re speaking completely different languages. You aren’t feeling understood, and as much as you want to, you’re having a hard time understanding your partner. Frustration is turning into resentment right before your eyes and the hopelessness is getting louder every day. It feels like your relationship is sinking and you’re in desperate need of a life jacket to stay afloat.

If it hasn’t happened already, the relationship is coming to a crossroads. You haven’t felt connected or seen by your partner in awhile, and you’re feeling lonely. You’re questioning whether or not there’s anything left to salvage. At this point, the idea of getting back to where you once were seems like a fantasy because you’ve gotten so far from it, and even though your partner is right next to you, they feel so, so far away. In fact, you’re starting to wonder if you’re holding them back from truly being happy. No matter how hard you try, you keep coming up short and you feel like you’re failing.

What if I told you that you’re not failing, and neither is your relationship? In fact, I’d say that what you’re feeling now is exactly what’s necessary to move your relationship past this turbulence. I know what it’s like to continuously question yourself and your efforts. It doesn’t feel good when your affections aren’t reciprocated and it’s really easy to internalize that rejection. In my work with couples, I’ve found that when the relationship is in a rut, it becomes harder than ever to rely on your partner. Instead of leaning into trust and vulnerability, we’re more likely to turn to defensiveness and blame. Every couple has a cycle that gets repeated and the longer it persists, it feels more like a tornado. Sometimes, it takes a third party to help you understand what your cycle is, and help you find the tools to disrupt it so that you can find your way back to one another.

Every winning team needs a good coach. If you’re ready to get back in the game and help your team win, contact me today to schedule your free 15 minute phone consultation.